It’s virtually impossible to go on Facebook these days without seeing at least one profile picture of a guy trying his best to look smoldering, or a girl with duck lips and an overly-endearing selfie. The social media site has become overrun with dating apps, people looking for love, and those just trying to find friends.
That being said, it’s not the most conducive environment for meeting new people. After all, how many times can you like or comment on someone’s post before it becomes weird? Even so, that doesn’t mean you can’t make friends on Facebook – you just need to be a bit more creative about it.
If you want to talk to that special girl in your life but don’t know where to begin, check out these 8 surprisingly simple ways to start talking to a girl on Facebook…
1. Be Her Guardian Angel
People have been finding love online for years, and it’s no different on Facebook. If the girl you’re interested in is going through a tough time, try being her guardian angel. It’s a simple yet powerful way to show her that you care. For example, if she posts about a bad day at work, show her that you’re there to listen.
Alternatively, if she posts something about an issue that’s closer to home, like a family member who is sick, you can reach out and help her in any way you can. No matter what the circumstances, this simple act can go a long way toward forming a lasting friendship. It shows that you’re willing to be there for her, and will likely leave her with a very positive impression of you.
2. Ask Questions
Asking questions is a great way to get to know someone, and this is especially true on Facebook where you’re restricted to writing only. Start off by commenting on a few of her posts and asking her questions about them.
This will let her know that you’re interested in what she has to say. Asking questions is especially important if you’re interested in a girl who is significantly younger or older than you. If you’re eight years older, you may feel like there are many things you have in common with this girl.
But if you don’t ask her about the things she likes or is interested in, you aren’t likely to find out. The same goes if you have a large age difference. If you have a wide variety of interests, find ways to work them into the conversation.
3. Hang Out on Group Chats
If you find yourself on a group chat with a girl you’re interested in, take advantage of the situation and make an attempt to befriend her. Ask her about herself, and try to get to know her as best you can, given the limitations of a group chat. When the time is right, invite her to one-on-one chats.
Asking her to switch to one-on-one chats will let her know that you’re interested in getting to know her better. You can also let her know that you’re happy to keep talking with her in the group, but you’d like to talk one-on-one as well.
If she declines, don’t take it personally. There are plenty of reasons why she may not want to switch to one-on-one chats, so if she does decline, don’t push the issue. If she does agree, however, you’ve just successfully made a new friend.
4. Write a Friendly Message
If you’ve been following all of the above tips, but you still don’t feel comfortable enough to ask her out on a date, try writing her a friendly message instead. If you’ve been commenting on her posts for a while, and she seems receptive to your comments, you can try writing her a message. Be sure to avoid anything that sounds overly romantic or flirty, or she may think you’re coming on to her. Instead, try to keep the tone lighthearted and friendly.
You can also try writing her a message if you see that she’s participated in a few group chats. Remember, the best approach is to be yourself when writing her a message. Don’t try to be overly charming or suave.
Instead, just write her an honest message that lets her know you enjoy her posts and would like to get to know her better.
5. Comment on Her Posts
While you can’t comment on every post from the girl you’re interested in, you can comment on a few of her posts. Start off by commenting on her most recent posts. Commenting on her most recent posts will let her know that you’re currently paying attention to her posts. It will also show her that you’re interested enough in her to take the time to comment on one of her posts.
If you’re commenting on a post from a few days ago, however, this may come across as odd or strange. If you’re unable to access her recent posts, try commenting on some of her older posts.
Commenting on her older posts will also let her know that you’re currently paying attention to her posts, but it also shows that you’ve been following her for a while and care enough to remember her posts.
6. Throw out some bait.
If you’re having trouble finding a way to start talking to a girl you like, try dropping a few subtle hints. If you’re following her posts and commenting on them, but you still feel like she doesn’t know you exist, try dropping some bait. Start off by commenting on one of her posts and throwing out a question that’s related to her post.
This will show her that you’re interested in what she has to say, but it will also leave you open for her to respond back. From there, it’s a waiting game. If she responds back, you can ask her additional questions about her post, or simply let her know that you like her post.
If she doesn’t respond back, don’t take it personally. Remember, you don’t know her, so she has no reason to respond back to you.
7. Engage with the people around her
If you’re interested in a girl who has tons of friends or posts pictures of her hanging out with various guys, don’t worry. There’s still a chance that you can make friends with this girl. Start off by commenting on her posts and paying attention to the people she interacts with.
If there are any posts that mention a specific group of people, try to interact with those people whenever you can. You can also try commenting on posts where she is, but make sure that your comment has nothing to do with her.
Commenting on a post where the girl you’re interested in is but talking about something completely unrelated to her will let her know that you’re interested in getting to know her and her friends.
8. Be a Good Friend First
If you want to make new friends on Facebook, you re going to have to put in the work. If you want to be able to talk to a girl on Facebook, you’re going to have to follow her posts and interact with her. You’re also going to have to take things a step further by making an attempt to befriend her.
Remember, Facebook is mostly about quantity, not quality. As long as you’re interacting with people and being a friendly person, you’ll be able to make new friends. You may not make a new best friend, but you’ll have a few more people in your circle. In order to make friends on Facebook, you have to be outgoing and friendly.
Don’t be afraid to interact with people, and don’t be afraid to make the first move. As long as you’re friendly and try your best, you’ll be able to make plenty of new friends on Facebook.